Rumors seems to have become an inseparable part of our everyday life. "Psst which are the latest news?" All they have done, we have heard with attention or saying something that does not belong to us, when it comes to other personal matters. We are eager to hear and speak also as a daily spiritual food, where the morning coffee will not work if we do not give effect to receive the dose of gossip. Although it may have felt a slight pangs of conscience, we continued anyway.
The truth is that 80 percent of our daily conversations are very personal, and there are more rumors than any other discussion. One of the reasons why humanity is so fond of gossip itself is that "he is entertaining in the most irresistible" - said Frank McAndrew, a professor of psychology at Knox University. When we gossip a part of our brain releases a hormone dopamine that stimulates enthusiasm.
Why do gossipThe question that arises is why we like all the rumors of why do it? The shortest answer is coming: to discover as much as the other. Since we do not know what others think of us, we like to occasionally koleksionojmë information. So do "detective" amateur, because we want to be in the minds of others by any means to know what they think. "We are always looking for information, we want to investigate to see what hidden mystery," writes one of the professors Alfred University in New York. Rumor doing we discover and know others better. Or at least people think this is the best way to get to know another.
Surely there are better ways to do this but it seems that it is inevitable for human nature. Doing the gossip is in our nature. "We are indisputably the heirs of a bunch of people who put their noses," - says Dr. McAndrew. Perhaps it would be necessary to dealing with rumors and survive just as our ancestors, but helps us whom to believe and whom not.
On the other hand, we do not like to gossip about others to let them understand who we are. You like to talk to your neighbor's pabesnikërinë about her husband. Expressing your opinion and facts you give what you own character or morality. So you discover that the person in front of you gossiping has the same opinion with you or not. Dealing with the details and the details of the conversation, highlight what is "We're better than them." You are reaffirming and share your values. An overstatement to ask yourself in public.The positive effectsIn addition, to rid the brain chemicals that make us feel good, such as dopamine, that kind of way to talk also increases levels of progesterone, a hormone that produces anxiety and stress according to University of Michigan study. Our welfare gets another boost from the fact that rumors always keep us connected. "You laugh, cry .... holds about others, "- according to Dr. Fisher. "You can thus strengthen your relationship between you and the person you're discussing."
But above all, if you deal with gossip in the workplace can also create facilities. Your colleague informed, know the pros and cons of it, learning how to defend boss or hear stories of your best friend. In the workplace does not mean necessarily to deal with rumors, but it is important to know who are friends and enemies. So can defend and attack in the first case to be given. So do not stay indifferent avoiding rumors, so just because others will deal with you and you will be subject of discussion.A study conducted in 2011 found in a 12 month period that about 74 percent of employees in the office gossip. Every day they start their working day with the first words heard wanting to be distributors of news.
Evil, reputation risksDo not be surprised, rumors can hurt, especially when nature is malignant, and if there is no purpose just to see another down. Not only is exceptional but specifically what you say out loud in public can severely damage the reputation of anyone. These already occurring in various public sites such as Facebook, Twitter and YouTube, which recently happening widely including age and different people.
You must have a lot of information which should be enough to make gossip. And it is because we are made dependent upon the technology, the uses of websites, spending hours to thashethemnuar even our closest friends. There are positives we use technology, because the only purpose for which it wishes to use as much listening to others, either negatively or positively, and that rarely happens.
But what is the solution?The censurosh yourself or know to do in certain circumstances. When in doubt about something is better not to express at all. You can say something later if you like to express, but can not draw back if they learned the secret of all. Just because I know something really interesting not necessarily have to distribute it. Mat pluses and minuses before you say something, it is important to put things in balance before becoming distribution of news. Ask yourself if you would say it would hurt any or simply entertainment
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